About Joanna Terrelonge, LMHC

I’m Joanna Terrelonge, LMHC, and I specialize in couples therapy, affair recovery, and relationship therapy for individuals across New York State.

Using Relational Life Therapy (RLT), I help clients understand the deeper patterns driving conflict, break destructive cycles, and build secure, respectful, emotionally connected relationships.

I provide virtual couples therapy and relationship therapy to clients throughout New York State, offering flexible and confidential support from the privacy of your home.

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My Specialties

Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling

Break destructive cycles, rebuild trust, and learn repair skills that strengthen emotional connection.

Affair Recovery

Heal betrayal trauma, restore safety, and gain clarity about the future of your relationship.

Relationship Therapy for Individuals

Understand attachment patterns, heal from unhealthy relationship dynamics, and build healthier connections moving forward.

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You’re Not Failing. You’re Stuck in a Pattern.

Most couples are not struggling because they lack love or commitment.

They are caught in patterns that once helped them cope but now create distance, conflict, and imbalance.

These repeating relational cycles often include:

• pursuer and withdrawer dynamics
• anger and shutdown
• chronic resentment
• trauma bonding
• power imbalances
• choosing emotionally unavailable partners
• staying too long in relationships that feel unsafe

These patterns often develop early in life and they can be unlearned. Understanding your relationship pattern is often the turning point

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My Approach: Relational Life Therapy (RLT)

I use Relational Life Therapy, a direct and practical model designed to create real, lasting change.

My work style is different from a typical couples therapist. First, I often take sides when there is a power imbalance, as I do not believe that all problems are an even fifty-fifty split. Second, I use appropriate self-disclosure. I am honest, direct, and real. Third, and most importantly, I often do individual work in the presence of the partner. My goal is to help you move from trauma to healing, and from disconnection to connection.

I teach couples the practical skills that relationships require: accountability, repair, boundaries, and emotional honesty. We address the “losing strategies” that keep partners stuck being right, controlling, retaliation, unbridled self-expression, and withdrawal and replace them with behaviors that rebuild trust, safety, and respect. Most of us were never taught these skills. That doesn’t mean you can’t learn them.

My goal is simple: to help you feel seen, heard, and connected again, and to give you the tools to sustain that connection long after therapy ends.

Unlike traditional talk therapy, this work is active and structured.
You won’t just gain insight.
You’ll gain tools.

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The Skills Healthy Relationships Require

Healthy relationships require skills that most of us were never taught, including:

• accountability
• repair after conflict
• emotional regulation
• healthy boundaries
• balanced power
• secure attachment

In our work together, we identify the “losing strategies” that keep couples stuck such as being right, controlling, retaliation, unbridled self-expression, and withdrawal and replace them with behaviors that rebuild trust, safety, and respect.

You won’t just gain insight.

You’ll gain tools.

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How I Help

Using Relational Life Therapy and trauma-informed care, I provide active, structured, and results-focused therapy.

I work with:

• couples on the brink of divorce
• partners healing after infidelity
• individuals leaving unhealthy or emotionally abusive relationships
• clients recovering from narcissistic abuse
• people navigating breakup or divorce
• individuals who want to build healthier attachment patterns

This is not passive therapy.

You will gain clarity, structure, accountability, and practical tools that support real change.

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Virtual Therapy Across New York State

Therapy Central NY provides virtual couples therapy and relationship therapy to clients throughout New York State, making it easier to access specialized support regardless of where you live.

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Ready to Break the Pattern?

Whether you are trying to save your marriage, healing after betrayal, leaving an unhealthy relationship, or preparing to build something stronger in the future, change is possible.

You do not have to navigate this alone.